LISTEN CAREFULLY ALL SINGLE MONOGAMOUS HETEROSEXUALS, especially Guys: UNLESS the Host facilitators have an option for you & your predetermined old lady touching no one else but each other, or Unless you want to act like some mild mannered fucking effeminized non-binary beta bitch queer or stud candidate for yuppy promiscuous women to subtly prove to themselves theare in in demand and cheat on their cuckolds, AVOID and BOYCOTT CONTACT IMPROV Like the fucking plague.
Spiral CosmosArt <spiralcosmosart@yahoo.com>
To:eugenejam.contactimprov@gmail.com
Oct 2, 2017 at 6:06 PM
To whom it may concern:
Recently I found this description about contact improv
"It's not a pick-up scene, please be super-respectful and keep that kind of element in check or out. "
I'd
just like to remind you all there's a big difference between someone
who openly and honestly admits he explores dance to communicate better
and seeks an intimate partner by learning communicating nonverbally
through dance, rather than someone who actually does unconsensual,
deluded, inappropriate threatening action or activity, or open rude
proposition sexually, or harassment especially: involving touching
without consent.
When
I tried to communicate on that by saying I had a reproductive desire
once on social media, I was immediately villified by a regular contact
improv effeminine man whose probably gay who said I was "a creeper" and I
really don't appreciate that if he's still reading these emails and
facilitating .
I'm
in a head space right now where I'm considering sporadically going to
dances (not necessarily contact improv) as a routine activity to face
the challenge of learning respect perceiving and expressing passionate
nonverbal communication through dance and sometimes I do feel a bit too
politically incorrect and awkward. (especially since the last
presidential election) There are times I've felt like I'm walking on
eggshells, but there are other times when I don't care and I'm quite
content with the joy of facing the challenge and loving the thrill of
the prospect of observing new interesting compatible and attractive
people.
The
open elephant in the room about any physical contact activity when
there's some legal fear or paranoia is that men are always way more
obliged to be completely aware and refrain from any hint of harassment
or assault if any woman should feel threatened far more than any other
way around. And the last time I was at a "contact improv" there this
double standard of paranoia was never even questioned.
3
or 4 years ago when the Contact Improv tended to be facilitated by a
tall woman who is physically bigger than me, I use to feel way more
comfortable dancing with her than anyone else for that reason, but then
things changed through time. And I slowly began to realize i needed to
set boundaries and communicate those boundaries. I don't know if she
does conact improv anymore, but I kind of miss her.
If
I was to ever go to contact improv again I'm curious if the format is
still how it was a little over a year ago near that Eugene Swimming Pool
on Hilyard when the facilitator got all thought police with me because I
refused to roll around with other men or married women or women already
in relationships who are absolute strangers to me. Because the last
time I was there when I started to initiate a dance with some young
woman very cautiously, after I didn't participate in the guided portion.
The facilitator there, who I didn't want touching me, thought nothing
wrong with her and an old male contact regular partner rushing and
interrupting me and interfering with me and the young lady. And that
facilitator and her male dance partner thought nothing about touching me
from behind without even bothering to look at my eyes or do anything to
ask or see if I consented to that? If dance is all about this "white
knight" bum rush paranoia then you're no better than everyone you say
you're against.
I
mean that kind of behavior completely flies in the face of all reason
of everything I try and do to at dance: learning long ago to least have
some courtesy to really pay attention if someone is even bothering to
return eye contact and smile with some pleasant expression of mutual
consent to touch.. These people as I remembered them in their
"polyamory" open relationship lifestyles or dancestyles in contact
improv seem to expect everyone to dance with absolute strangers
regardless of gender or age. And that' s fine I guess if it floats
your boat, but it seemed a good moment to ask if maybe there's others
who want dance without that expectation?
Maybe
things have since changed and evolved since then? Maybe there's a
place for people who want more monogamous dance? Maybe its okay and I
don't feel judged to simply show up at the "open jam" portion and do a
180 degree walk out when everyone there seems way too gay or promiscuous
for me to be around? Rather than turning a blind eye and playing
stupid about and pretend there's absolutely never a correlation with
the bedroom and the dance floor? Give me a break:
https://www.thepennyhoarder.com/make-money/15-careers-with-the-highest-divorce-rates/
And maybe everyone there at the dance that just goes along to get along
won't ever succumb to heterophobia at me again for leaving prematurely
when I don't like the scene? I don't know? I thought I'd ask if
there's a place for people who don't fit the liberal "gender fluild"
lgbt polyamory mould?
Maybe
If there is more feedback from other custermers expressing popular
demand for a version of contact improv with simply mutual consensual
couples, perhaps who pre-arrange their couplehood themselves? , rather
than expectation and demands for people to dance with absolute
strangers? I'd love to go to that. Its not like I'm alone in being a
bit realistic about legitimate specific circumstances when and who one
feels comfortable around? There thats what I would prefer and Its
called personal boundaries and preferences, not coercion or "pickup"
objectives.
